Letter
Hello
As adoptive parents, we commit to honor your sacrifice by continuing to put this child’s needs above all the other competing needs of the world.
Rob and Andee
We can’t begin to know how difficult your decision to place your child for adoption must be. We admire your selfless strength. As adoptive parents, we commit to honor your sacrifice by continuing to put this child’s needs above all the other competing needs of the world. We commit to provide love, stability, and protection. Most importantly, we will provide love, not just from the two of us, but from an extended community of family and friends. We have wanted to have a child for many years, but it did not work out. It has been an incredibly painful journey of loss, but through that difficulty we have grown closer, stronger, and more empathetic to the challenges and pain that others endure. Pain and loss, whatever it is caused by, can teach us about ourselves, our capacity to love, forgive, and our capacity to empathize and connect. We recognize that this may be a painful experience for you. You will have a meaningful place in your child’s heart that we will respect and nurture as they grow.
Our Story
We saw the qualities in each other that we knew could lead to a supportive and enduring relationship.
Our Wedding "Limo"
respective departments when Rob found Andee in a quiet corner of the state aquarium. After a few minutes of conversation, we began to realize that we had a lot in common, like similar music tastes, a love of the outdoors, and eating interesting food. We quickly became friends. Even though we lived in different cities, the spark from our first meeting kept us in contact. When travel opportunities presented themselves that would put us in the same city, we would coordinate a lunch or dinner visit that helped us get to know each other better. Fate even provided us with a chance to camp and spend the weekend together when a work event was unexpectedly canceled early in our friendship. Rob invited Andee to a large music festival in June of 2010. It was on this trip that our friendship bloomed into a relationship. It was during this trip, camping and surrounded by the positive energy of the crowd, that we saw the qualities in each other that we knew could lead to a supportive and enduring relationship. We dated long distance for a few months and when Rob was able to transfer and live in the same city as Andee, he jumped at the chance. After months of outdoor adventures, seeing live music, volunteering, appreciating each other’s professional work and motivations, and sharing in the love of each other’s families, Rob popped the question with a family heirloom of his mother’s ring, while out on a vineyard adventure in the Texas Hill Country and Andee eagerly said yes. When announcing the engagement to Rob’s friends they asked, “Is the wedding at the island?” That island is a place that fills Rob’s most treasured childhood memories. Redfern Island, as it is known, is a property in Canada, that has been in Rob’s family since his grandmother and grandfather purchased it 65 years ago as a rustic and remote vacation property. Rob has shared this place with his closest group of friends throughout the years, and most importantly his grandmother Jeanne, whom he spent many summer weeks with at the cabin. Andee had not yet been to Redfern Island, but with Rob talking of it so frequently, she knew it was something special. Through months of careful wedding planning, Andee and Rob invited a crowd of 23, consisting of their immediate families and most cherished friends to enjoy the ceremony on a quiet beach among Canada’s wild spaces. Upon arriving to the lake and while enjoying the boat ride to the cabin and the beauty of a new place, Andee’s brother leaned in to Andee and said “you deserve this,” as he knew his sister’s love and appreciation for pristine and beautiful natural resources. We had a celebration in Rob’s hometown and another in our current city to celebrate with our greater groups of friends whom the Island could not accommodate.
Why Adoption
While we know that adoption is not without pain and struggle, we look forward to our love continuing to carry forward into the family we have long had our hearts set on.
Us at Sunset
We have always wanted to have a kid. We love to play outside and cannot imagine a better thing than watching the natural world unfold in our child’s eyes. Before we were married, we both agreed we wanted kids. Unfortunately, things did not work out biologically. After several miscarriages and a failed attempt at Invitro Fertilization, we decided that having a biological child wasn’t in our future and we turned to hope and the aspiration for an adoption to help expand our family. While we know that adoption is not without pain and struggle, we look forward to our love continuing to carry forward into the family we have long had our hearts set on. We are excited to begin a new chapter of parenthood together and look forward to all the joys, challenges and adventures that a growing family brings with it. A few of our friends have also adopted. We have benefited from their advice on the road to adoption, sought advice from them, and look forward to continuing to nurture this relationship as our family grows.
Our Promise
We recognize that there will always be a special bond between a biological parent and their child, and we promise to honor that.
Andee and Rob
Thank you for taking the time to learn more about us and considering us to take on the most important task of raising this child. We recognize that there will always be a special bond between a biological parent and their child, and we promise to honor that. At the same time, we promise to provide support, guidance, and unconditional love to this child as if they were our own biological child. Love is powerful and the more people that can love and care for a child in this world, the better.